Chronicles of a Single Mom: Post #6- Little Moments

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You often hear it’s the little moments that count in a child’s life.
As a single parent, I find myself dividing my time between work, house work and other various activities as many parents do.
I also find myself trying to compensate for not being there as much as I can through gifts, treats and the like. I don’t want to be that parent.
So while thinking of ways that we can spend quality time together, it dawned on me that we do in a nontraditional sense.
Thru television.
I admit it might not be the best approach but it works for us. Our tradition of watching “Survivor” or the “Amazing Race” has evolved from just watching a little television before we go to bed to fruit and cheese trays in preparation for the season premiere or finale. It’s even as complex as not watching an episode while the other is gone. We wait and on-demand it later when we can watch it together.
While we both enjoy the show, some episodes more than others, it’s not really about the television. It’s about an 8-year-old and 30-year-old finding some common ground that allows them to have raw dialogue if only for 60 minutes. Okay, 65 minutes if you add checking a scene from next week’s episode.
So nontraditional, right?
I don’t mean the usual dialogue about the shows or the challenges. We do that as well but most of those lead to conversations about social issues, disparities, cultural differences, geographical challenges and so on that may be exposed through the show and their contestants. It gives us a chance to talk about those things that we might not see, do or experience in our culture, relationships or geographical location.
It gives us a chance to talk about the differences between ourselves and others.
It gives us a chance to talk about family dynamics and how they impact us as humans from youth to adulthood.
To have a moment where we’re not worried about chores, what’s for dinner tomorrow, or how hectic our schedule is.
Most of all it gives us a chance to talk. To freely express ourselves and cultivate a relationship that will last a lifetime.
Or at least until she hits those teenage years and we begin yelling instead.
So I’ll take these little moments even if I have to share them with Jeff Probst and Phil Keoghan.
I’m just saying.

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